I have made some big shifts in the past few years in the way I am doing business and who I am serving. I have gotten clearer and clearer with myself, and so I am speaking now to a more and more specific audience.

As I have been growing and evolving, I have grown and evolved my work to reflect that. This is what I help my clients do, too. I am very excited about the work I am doing with my clients now and sharing that with you. As I have stepped up into a higher level of service and put myself out there in a new and different ways, I have experienced resistance and pushback.

For 15 years, I was passionate about serving victims. I cared for AIDS patients in hospice. I ran crisis centers and emergency shelters and hotlines for victims of domestic violence. I did emergency room response for sexual assault victims. I created and facilitated programs. I raised money for survivors. I had a private therapy practice dedicated to serving adults who were abused and sexually abused as children. I served as a court expert testifying against abusers, and I was a court-appointed advocate for abused children. I went out into the community and across the state speaking on their behalf. I was passionate about my work.

What I have learned is that many of us, myself included, who get into serving victims and are passionate about it, come from a place of our own wounding. The way for us to no longer feel like victims ourselves is to become rescuers. It provides a false sense of power. It becomes a self-perpetuating cycle. We rescue people who see themselves as victims. We reinforce that they are victims. Eventually, there is tremendous burnout in this work, because we do not receive what we are looking for, and we again feel like victims – underappreciated, underpaid, undervalued – especially by the people we have set out to serve.

Once I broke free from my own victim/rescuer trap, I transitioned into a way of being where I am a Powerful Creator instead. I took 100% responsibility for my life and everything that shows up in it. This was a process. At any time, we take anywhere from 0 to 100% responsibility for our lives and everything that shows up in them. Once I did this, I had so much more true power that came from taking responsibility. The more power you want to have over yourself and your own life, the more responsibility you have to be willing to take for it.

Now, I’m not saying, nobody should be serving victims. Anyone who had any high school psychology should be familiar with Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. Until people’s basic survival needs are met, it is more difficult for them to turn their attention to the higher pursuits of personal and spiritual growth and development. People need food, clothing and shelter, they crave safety and security.

Suddenly, when I put it out there that we have choice, we make decisions, and we can be responsible for determining our own destinies based on the choices we make, some people really did not want to hear that, they weren’t ready to hear that. And that’s okay.

I have shifted my career focus to those people who are ready to hear it and ready to give it a try. Having lived this way for quite a few years now, I can offer proof to help build the belief of those who are looking for it. I am plugged into beautiful communities of people creating lives they love that support them. I have powerful coaches and mentors and teachers who help me hold this vision for myself and for all of you.

Tony Robbins said, “You can’t motivate someone to do anything they don’t want to do. You have to set the example, and be willing to lead those that are ready for a change.” And that’s what I’m doing.

I invite you to take a look at the way I am working with people to help them step into who they are and take that out into the world right now, then see how I might help you do the same.

When you’re ready, of course ;).